His cancer has curbed some of his extra curricular activities, but has done little to dampen his positive outlook, and certainly not his sense of humor. Two years ago, Neill (who has three children: Bill, 32, an electrical engineer in Chicago, Tom, 31, a grad student at Johns Hopkins, and Sarah, 29, an attorney also living in Chicago) married his long-time companion Amy Duitsman. Periodically, they send updates on his health, and in spite of the gravity of his situation, the messages are filled with self-deprecating humor: "Things are stable, except for the fluid in my right lung. There is so much there I could fish. I don't need to go to the Jersey Shore to listen to the surf, all I do is sway side to side and I sound like a tsunami hitting the beach."