Secondly, you need to stick to the agreements—no changing the rules mid-race. Finally, and this is an important part, in your post-race debriefs you keep talking about how the agreements are working, and discuss what you’ll try differently next time. That is, you don’t just talk about the rights and wrongs of individual decisions. You also talk about how the decision-making is working and what needs to change. If you bend the rules, you bend the relationships.